So this particular topic in which I will call Verbal Fasting is also known as “Not speaking negative.” I realize this is not so much a running/fitness topic but today it will be.
Negative talk is like a virus. It creeps it’s way into your life and has a way of whispering in your ear all the ugly, selfish, negative, self hating talk that it can:
*You’re not good enough.
*You’ll never be skinny.
*Only skinny people run.
*You’re too slow to run a marathon.
*You’ll never succeed.
*Other people do it better than you.
*You’ll fail just like everyone expects you too.
The list can go on and on but you get the point. I’m the world’s worst/best at negative talk. At some point in my life I allowed it to make its way into my life and it infected/affected me. Let me help you from making the same mistakes. It’s something I have to work on all the time or otherwise it tries to root itself back in to my life.
I came up with Verbal Fasting. Before speaking it, accepting it or reacting to the negativity, I stop, I pray about it and I move forward. What does this mean for you? Stop, think about it (pray about it) and decide, is it good, pure, true? Then, move forward. I refuse to accept the nagging little voice that tries to gum up my thoughts. Whether it be frustration, anxiety, anxiousness or just negative self talk, I step back and decide what I’m feeling and hearing is it really true (which normally it’s not), take control of it and then deny it. Squash the negative feeling or thought.
I call it verbal fasting because to me it’s like fasting for religious purposes. When someone fast, they do not go out and announce the fasting. Instead, they go into their quiet place to pray and meditate silently. Verbal fasting has the same concept. When a situation arises, instead of reacting or acting on the negative, stop, go into your quiet place and pray and meditate on it. Is it true? Is it right? Is it pure? Is it lovely? If not, then deny and refuse it.
It’s not easy and it’s hard to take hold of those negative thoughts and feelings but the outcome is a brighter, happier, and lovelier person; a stronger person physically and mentally; someone who knows they are good and worthy.
Now I do this by having quiet time in the morning to review what’s good and pure. I recommend positive messages (Rick Warren) or positive music such as KLove to play in the background while you work of a day. I work very hard to keep the negative at bay. It affects me. It rubs off on me and before you know it, I’m cranky and I have the “Meh” attitude. I don’t see the positive in a situation. I have a negative cloud hanging around me. Now I’m not saying you won’t have bad days. We all have a bad day from time to time, but a string of bad days is not good. Constantly feeling the need to put people in their place is not good. It’s not good for your soul or mind. Constantly thinking “I’ll never lose weight” leaves an anchor tied to your mindset. Deny it. Squash it. Declare that you will do better and be better. Instead of getting angry at someone, give them grace. Instead of escalating a situation can you defuse it by just giving a person grace? If you do will the situation end and everyone move on to a better outcome? I only bring this up because all of this affects the negative and positives in your life and in others lives as well.
So the next time the little voice whispers “You’ll never reach your goals” or “You’re not good enough”……deny it. Shout back, “I will and I am. I will reach my goals!! I am most certainly good enough!! I declare it and believe it!!”
Fitness and running is such a mental place. If we’re in a mental rut or bad spot then our health and fitness suffers. If we protect our minds and heart then it’s very possible that our health and fitness can soar to places you’ve never been before.
How do you protect and renew your mind?
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. – Philippians 4:8